What Does It Mean When You Say, “I’m Fine?!”

Hello beautiful people, how are you feeling today? Many times, we respond to that question with baseless responses like, “I’m fine,” or “I’m okay,” yet no one ever really digs deeper, going beyond the vague and into the personal heart of how they truly are, or vice versa of how the other person is feeling. Why is that? Do you suppose we respond in this way because we are afraid to show our true emotions? Or are we scared the other person will judge us for being human and going through the emotions of life? Or is it that we feel more comfortable keeping the mask of fake personification up rather than tearing down the walls we build to “protect ourselves” from showing our more vulnerable side?

I started today with these questions because I want us all to think about how we can be better, relatable people than we are towards each other. In a world that shoves down our throats everyday that the only “true beauty” and “perfection” is artificial enhancement, artificial intelligence and filters, it’s easy to feel mundane about life’s most truest and realest beauties: who we are on the inside and who we see when we look in the mirror. We are all individuals made to be, look and feel different. Even though we each have a story to tell, we all have been through some sort of journey in our lives that makes us relatable to others. Yet why are we so afraid of living in our truths and being honest about who we are and how we feel? Why are we a world so obsessed with filters?

We filter our pictures because we don’t like the natural image of who we are under the mask of makeup and concealer. We filter our lives to fit societal norms of unrealistic expectations. We filter our speech because we want to show that we can “fit in” with the rest of the crowd. We filter the way we think and how we interact with the outside / social media world because we are afraid that if we do not match and co-sign on modern day standards and beliefs, then we will be forced out and cancelled by the internet trolls. All of these things are occurring in our world just because many are afraid to be themselves (aka “different“).

When is this going to stop? Who will take a stand to stay true to themselves and fathom their own standards, emotions, feelings and beliefs regardless of what everyone else thinks, feels or says?

I realize by now you may be thinking to yourself, “Andrea, why are you so concerned with how people are really feeling?” Heck, you may even say to yourself, “Why isn’t she telling us what happened to her and where she’s been the last few months?” To tell you the truth, I personally feel that I couldn’t even get into the depths of what’s going in my world right now until I address the issue of how “fake” the world has become, and what needs to be done in order for us to truly understand, empathize with, and really listen to and absorb what someone is going through. How can one tell you what they’re going through when the normal standard response is supposed to be, “I’m fine?

What is “fine“? Who came up with this concept that everyone has to pretend that life is all good, that everything is going well, and that no bad, sad or ill feelings are going through their minds? Who fed us this lie that we all have to pretend that everything is okay? I think it’s high time that we stop being fake and start being real. It’s time to turn off the filters, wipe off the makeup and start being honest and sincere with ourselves and who we were made to be. We need to attain towards being more relatable, and detain ourselves from putting up a persona of perfection.

The best example of a person being true to who they are, their beliefs and their difference of opinions is Jesus Christ. Throughout The Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke and John) we see Jesus living out His calling and speaking His truth. Believe it or not, at that time, the message that Jesus Christ taught was seen as radical, different, uncommon and not normal for the everyday practices of that time’s societal standards. He was taunted, mocked and revered by all who despised his true and very different way of thinking because He was teaching people how to not fit into this world, but to focus on getting into God’s Kingdom. He didn’t fit in, nor was He trying to. He didn’t care that His message was different or seen as radical. He didn’t care that His way of thinking wasn’t how everyone else thought. More importantly, He didn’t care about “blending in” with society. For that, He was despised by the “internet trolls” of His time. Although He was tortured, beaten, whipped, hung up on a cross and stabbed to death, because He took a stand, His message still proved true, useful and lifesaving for generations.

The point I’m trying to make is that maybe we should be more like Jesus. Instead of trying to “fit in” with the “It Crowd,” why don’t we embrace our differences, and embody our feelings and beliefs the way Jesus Christ has. It’s high time we stop putting up filters over our lives. When someone asks us, “How we are doing / feeling,” start being honest. Tell that person how you’re truly feeling. You never know the response you’ll get. It may be a reply that offers you the help you need. It could be someone to empathize with you, or at the very least, they may be able to give you a different perspective than what you came up with on your own.

“A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” (Ecclesiastes‬ ‭4:12‬ ‭NLT‬‬)

Don’t be afraid to be yourself! Don’t be afraid to embrace your natural, humanistic emotions! Don’t be afraid to express how you feel! God gave us these feelings for a reason. We are not made to be robots, blending in with everyone else. We were created to be different — individuals who are a part of one body: CHRIST!

“The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Christ. Some of us are Jews, some are Gentiles, some are slaves, and some are free. But we have all been baptized into one body by one Spirit, and we all share the same Spirit… But our bodies have many parts, and God has put each part just where he wants it… This makes for harmony among the members, so that all the members care for each other. If one part suffers, all the parts suffer with it, and if one part is honored, all the parts are glad. All of you together are Christ’s body, and each of you is a part of it.” (1 Corinthians‬ ‭12:12-13, 18, 25-27‬ ‭NLT‬‬)

So my last thought on this matter before I get going today to my usual weekly doctors appointments, is that when someone texts, calls or approaches you and asks, “How are you doing / feeling?” tell them. Be honest and admit how you’re feeling. We are all going through something. We can all get through this walk of life together if we just embrace who we are in the core of our hearts and try to be more open, honest and relatable with one another. Give it a try! You never know how much better you’ll feel, or how far you get unless you open your mouth and start the process of expressing yourself.

Sincerely with love,

~A.G.Rogers

(Instagram: @AndreaGees)

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