One thing this journey in my life has taught me is to trust in the Lord no matter what. I may not understand why I’m being driven down certain paths, nor why certain people have been let out of the car before I got to my destination, but I have learned to trust that God makes no mistakes. Eventually, He reveals the people who are meant to be on board and those who are not.
I know it’s a hard pill to swallow at first, going at things alone and realizing your life has to change in order for it to grow; but one lesson that’s been consistent is that God has a plan for everything. It took a while for me to come to terms with the fact that where God is taking me, everyone can’t go. Though trusting in God has been the best decision I’ve made in my life, it was still a struggle for me to come to terms with the above scripture passage. However, what I’ve grown to learn for myself is that people are not meant to last forever, they are only meant to serve their purpose for a season.
“When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.” (1 Corinthians 13:11 NLT)
In my youth, I wanted to bring everyone along. As I grew older, I had to learn that not everybody is prepared for God’s next level of faith in my life. We all have a specific place where God sees us walking, thriving, being happy and peacefully fulfilled in every area of our lives, but unfortunately some people will have to be left behind. The reality of life is that not everyone that started out with us will be with us in the end. We all have to get to a deep place of faith where we trust solely in God to steer our ship and stop holding onto man for our salvation.
“Then Jesus got into the boat and started across the lake with his disciples. Suddenly, a fierce storm struck the lake, with waves breaking into the boat. But Jesus was sleeping. The disciples went and woke him up, shouting, “Lord, save us! We’re going to drown!” Jesus responded, “Why are you afraid? You have so little faith!” Then he got up and rebuked the wind and waves, and suddenly there was a great calm.” (Matthew 8:23-26 NLT)
Like the disciples, I had to learn to trust God’s plan even when it wasn’t easy. It came at a time when I didn’t fully understand His power. When the storm hit my life, I too felt a sinking feeling overcome me just like the disciples did. I thought I was going to drown in the waves that came crashing down around me. The people that started my journey with me were nowhere to be found and I felt all alone. I even thought God had abandoned me. Indeed, I was truly afraid of the storm of change that had overtaken my life. However, it was in my storm that I saw the true character of people. It was through my storm, that I learned to trust solely in God to steer my ship and as a result, He calmed the waves.
For years, I feared being alone and as a result, I put up with the wrong people. For years, I cared more about what people would say about me rather than how they were making me feel. For years, I put everyone else’s needs and feelings before my own. For years, I believed I needed to hold onto people in order to find happiness. Boy, am I happy to say I was wrong! With the storm, God removed the things and people that I was too afraid to let go. I am now in a season of peace and freedom. God gave me this gift after enduring the storm and I’m excited for the next season He is taking me into.
Unfortunately, my blessing came disguised as the worst storm of my life. Going through the death of my beloved grandparents, who raised me as their own child and died within 9 months of each other, taught me that you cannot hold onto people for life is short and not promised to anyone. The gift they gave me was a life free from worrying about them. I am now free to choose a life that makes me happy. I did my duty at the time of being caregiver and now it’s time to walk into the next season that God has destined for me. From that storm, I’ve learned the biggest lesson — everyone has a purpose and an expiration date.
Whether people are placed by God or chosen by our own doing, everyone plays a role in God’s masterplan. At some point in time, those relationships we have with people will die. It’s then, when you have to be okay with letting them go and grow to understand why they no longer serve a purpose in your life. Keep the memories, take heed of the lessons learned by them but don’t cling to anybody for not everyone is meant to walk with you into your next season.
WARNING: Not everyone will be happy for you and the life that God has planned for you!
Accept this fact and the things you cannot change. Moving to the next level in Christ and in life will require change and sacrifice. This is why I say everyone cannot go with you into your next season. There will be people that will hate on you and those that will congratulate you. There’ll be people who will try to keep you down at their level of comfort and those that will lift you up. Although some people may want to remain the same, stuck in the season you’ve found them in, be okay with where they are and do what you need to do to remove yourself from their lives. They have the right to choose the life they want to live, just as you have the right to choose the life you want to live. It’s your job to choose whether or not you want to remain in the same season or if you’d prefer to go after ALL that God has for you. Walk into your season! No matter who they are, you have to be okay with trusting in God’s plan for your life.
““If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it.” (Matthew 10:39 NLT)
Today, I pray for anyone who has a problem with letting go. I pray that you learn to trust in God’s master plan for your life. Though you may not understand why certain things are happening to you, or why you’re being drawn away from certain people, I pray that you find the strength needed to follow God’s voice in your heart and let Him show you the way. Allow God to remove those people who are not meant to be in your life. Allow God to fill you with the strength you need to overcome fear. Allow God to help you focus on the things you’re meant to focus on and eliminate any distractions sent by the enemy. If you’ve been praying for God to send you some answers, trust them when they come. Trust that what He removes, He will supply you with a tenfold of blessings. The season you’ll enter will be much better than what you lost in the previous season. I pray you allow yourself to receive all that God has for you. In Jesus’ precious name, I pray Amen.
P.S. I may not be on here often, but just know that I’m working on something that God has placed in my heart. I cannot wait for the day to come when I can share it with you. Just keep me in your prayers as I continue on the path that God has chosen for me and I will continue to keep you in mines.
Sincerely with love,
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