“Heaven and earth will disappear, but my words will never disappear.” (Luke 21:33 NLT) While we are still here on this earth, we should use our time wisely. Use the time given to love and uplift others as well as build up and encourage ourselves to conquer our fears, nurture our dreams and utilize our spiritual gifts by changing the things in our lives that are meaningless and exhausting us from being our true happy, lovely, fulfilled selves. “God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.” (1 Peter 4:10 NLT) “Be sure to give to the Lord the best portions of the gifts given to you.” (Numbers 18:29 NLT) When we use our gifts, fulfilling our destinies and helping others, this pleases God and nourishes our souls. However, be mindful that not everyone wants to see you shine.
While often times we can identify storms coming our way, we tend to be blindsided by the swarm of haters that can attack us. Haters disguise themselves very well. They come in the form of a friend, family member or loved one, a coworker / supervisor / manager or a boss, they can even be a pastor or lay member at your church. Haters grow from all various walks of life. Your job is not to worry about the haters that may come your way. It’s their job to hate on your winnings in life. Your job is to keep winning! It’s unfortunate the day and times we live in. People are losing jobs, their lives, money and things all over hatred. People hate because it’s relatively easier to hate things they don’t understand or people that seem different than them. Newsflash: we were ALL created by ONE GOD in His likeness. Even though being hated on feels really sucky, I’m here to tell you there’s some Good News that comes from it all — people hated Jesus too!
Yes, even back in the day, Jesus Christ, the son of God, was hated on. Jesus was the Best Being Ever to walk this planet and yet He still was persecuted. He did good deeds, healed the sick, prayed for the poor, gave sight to the blind and hearing to the deaf. Even with all of His good deeds, including giving His life for our sins, He was and still is hated on. That’s the joy in your season of hate. “What blessings await you when people hate you and exclude you and mock you and curse you as evil because you follow the Son of Man. When that happens, be happy! Yes, leap for joy! For a great reward awaits you in heaven. And remember, their ancestors treated the ancient prophets that same way.” (Luke 6:22-23 NLT) No matter where you are or what you’re doing, as long as you are following Christ, using your God given gifts to bring joy to others and helping your fellow man/ woman/ child along the way, people will hate you for it.
Be at peace knowing that the only opinion that matters is God’s. It’s easy to get mad / angry and repay hate, evil or wrongdoings with the same ferocity that was given to you for that’s typically the instinct that comes naturally. Instead, why don’t you try something different. Follow Christ’s teachings and His way of dealing with haters. “Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the Lord.” (Romans 12:19 NLT) “Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.” (Romans 12:21 NLT) “If you repay good with evil, evil will never leave your house.” (Proverbs 17:13 NLT) “Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires.” (James 1:20 NLT) “Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” (James 1:19 NLT)
Is insanity worth your peace of mind? That’s all hatred is — an insane emotion an ignorant person chooses to embrace. Remember: your home is where your heart is. “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” (Proverbs 4:23 NLT) “A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart.” (Matthew 12:35 NLT) “God blesses those whose hearts are pure, for they will see God.” (Matthew 5:8 NLT)
Find positive things to occupy negative energy. Try these three (3) tips next time you are faced with hate:
- When someone is saying hateful things towards you, say uplifting words to yourself to boost your confidence.
- When someone is trying your patience, instead of repaying them with anger, try to take a few deep breaths and focus your mind on a place that makes you happy. (Examples: a vacation destination, a bubble bath at home, your bedroom or a quiet little garden somewhere).
- When you’re feeling angry and your blood is ready to boil over, try tuning out the drama and tune into some music that you like, watch a funny comedy sketch on YouTube or open up a book to read. (I know a Great Book that you can turn to. It helps one deal with ALL the stresses of life 😉.)
There are many more ways to keep your calm in stressful situations. Hate comes and goes but I want to encourage you today to try handling things differently than you would instinctively. See if you get better results by changing the way you react. I pray these tools I listed help you as you continue to grow on your journey of becoming a better YOU!
Sincerely with love,
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